Dear Kerry and Cynthia,

We have all hit a point in life that changes someone. It’s as if a hormone is released during 6 months before and after one’s twentieth birthday. What is it about all of us that we are rushing into serious relationships? How did our generation get this deeply rooted fear of being alone? Was it too many reruns of Sex in the City or was it watching our parents get divorced and remarried multiple times?

Kerry, you are a strong beautiful woman with the world at your feet. But your desperation for a boyfriend worries me. I understand that the lose of Bret, who could have been your match, hurt you deeply, but a part me of me hoped that you would recover. Keep in mind a saying my mom told me, a guy isn’t worth it unless he is willing to swim through an ocean teaming with sharks just to get you a lemonade. Remember that it is the woman that makes the man; women rock enough on their own.

Cynthia, we are just now starting to see the effects of your decision. I lost a friend because of your decision. You are not all to blame because I decided to help you plan your wedding to Ben. But now you have your marriage there is no need to push away the girls who stood by you. I might have lost one friend, but if you keep yourself secluded from everyone you will lose far more. I still feel that you jumped into your marriage far too quickly. Did you see the trend before I did? Because I have other friends, slightly older than us, who are getting married now as well. Have I missed the memo telling us to get married fast?

I can’t help but feel that I am out of the loop or missing some important part of me because I do not have a strong urge to get married. Stay safe and well with your decisions. But always remember that as women we are able to stand alone. Men are the ones that truly need us no matter how strong our craving for commitment is.

Love you both truly.