Dear Husband,

You are still very much the same man I married and that is my joy and my burden. As we pass into our 21st year of marriage, I wonder why things have turned out the way they have.

Why don’t we have more harmony in our lives? Why is communicating with you so difficult? I see all the jokes about nagging wives and realize it is probably exactly what I am experiencing. I do not feel that I am a nag and you probably do not feel that you are lazy. However, unless I ask you to do things, they don’t get done. Housework, yard work, laundry, and every other necessary task in our life, you are content to ignore.

We don’t go out much but when we do have time together, you are indecisive. I must make the plans or we will do nothing. When we need to make a decision while you’re your response is always “I don’t know”. How is it possible that you have no opinions on so many things?

We have an eighteen year old child who will soon be leaving home. I wonder if you want to spend the next twenty-one years together. I wonder if I do.